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Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
Dear Sara answers parenting and child raising
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published December 29, 2008
Dear Sara,
I have two kids ages 3 and 4 who
act completely different for me
than they do for their Dad.
For instance, perfect example, it will
be nap time and if Dad is in the
house, they don't move a muscle,
they don't make a sound. But then
seriously, the SECOND he walks out
the door, all hell breaks loose,
literally.
They will both sit right up and start
talking, all of the sudden they have
to potty and within a minute they
are jumping from bed to bed
screaming and laughing. And
nothing I say or do will make them
settle down.
However, the instant that they hear
him coming back into the house they
will literally dive back into their
beds without a peep, like they had
been asleep the whole time. And
that makes me so mad.
Why can't they behave for me like
that! Two years this has been going
on and it's only getting worse.
Christy
Dear Christy,
As kids get older they try to figure out
ways to do what they want even if it's
not what Mom and Dad want. Maybe
their Dad has figured out that he has
to say what he means and mean
what he says and your two kids have
found out that you don't really mean
what you say and aren't willing to
back up your words with some kind of
consequence.
If you keep telling them and telling
them what you want and never make
them do it, they will soon learn that
you are all talk and no action. If you
tell them "don't jump on the bed" and
they don't stop, then you need to
have a consequence for that.
Maybe their Dad has punished them
for doing this and they know for sure
that they will be punished so they are
very wary of his consequence.
You don't have to spank your kids for
disobeying you but you can take away
something that they value like their
favorite toy for the afternoon or keep
them from watching their favorite TV
program that day.
You can also put them in time out
(apart from each other) for 10 minutes
or so. But if you warn them be sure
to follow through! Don't back down!
They need discipline now or when
they get older they will do what they
want, when they want and you won't
have any control when they need
your maturity and guidance.
Sara
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published December 29, 2008
Dear Sara,
I have two kids ages 3 and 4 who
act completely different for me
than they do for their Dad.
For instance, perfect example, it will
be nap time and if Dad is in the
house, they don't move a muscle,
they don't make a sound. But then
seriously, the SECOND he walks out
the door, all hell breaks loose,
literally.
They will both sit right up and start
talking, all of the sudden they have
to potty and within a minute they
are jumping from bed to bed
screaming and laughing. And
nothing I say or do will make them
settle down.
However, the instant that they hear
him coming back into the house they
will literally dive back into their
beds without a peep, like they had
been asleep the whole time. And
that makes me so mad.
Why can't they behave for me like
that! Two years this has been going
on and it's only getting worse.
Christy
Dear Christy,
As kids get older they try to figure out
ways to do what they want even if it's
not what Mom and Dad want. Maybe
their Dad has figured out that he has
to say what he means and mean
what he says and your two kids have
found out that you don't really mean
what you say and aren't willing to
back up your words with some kind of
consequence.
If you keep telling them and telling
them what you want and never make
them do it, they will soon learn that
you are all talk and no action. If you
tell them "don't jump on the bed" and
they don't stop, then you need to
have a consequence for that.
Maybe their Dad has punished them
for doing this and they know for sure
that they will be punished so they are
very wary of his consequence.
You don't have to spank your kids for
disobeying you but you can take away
something that they value like their
favorite toy for the afternoon or keep
them from watching their favorite TV
program that day.
You can also put them in time out
(apart from each other) for 10 minutes
or so. But if you warn them be sure
to follow through! Don't back down!
They need discipline now or when
they get older they will do what they
want, when they want and you won't
have any control when they need
your maturity and guidance.
Sara