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featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
Dear Sara answers parenting and child raising
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published December 14, 2009
Dear Sara,
My husband and I have custodial
custody of his grandson Noah. Noah’
s Mom is a drug addict and totally
unable to care for him. We are
trying to raise him to be respectful,
eat a good diet and go to school on a
regular basis. We love him very
much.
The other set of grandparents get
visitation rights for 4 days at a time,
two times a month. This is a
problem for us because he gets to do
whatever he wants and even though
they are supposed to take him to
preschool when he is with them,
they don’t. He comes back to us full
of sugar and hard to handle because
they make no attempt to discipline
him.
It takes several days to calm him
down. How can we deal with this?
Carrie
Dear Carrie,
Noah is lucky to have so many people
who love him. It sounds like you are
doing the best you can at this point.
You are giving Noah a stable, loving
home with plenty of structure. Even
though his visits with his other
grandparents aren’t an especially
good influence, he will be influenced
more by you and your husband
because he spends the majority of his
time with you.
You should certainly let Noah know
that when he is with you that you
expect him to follow your rules. If he
doesn’t then he should get an
appropriate consequence. If he starts
giving you back-talk or is otherwise
rude, then make sure he doesn’t get
away with it. Give him time out or
take away his T.V. time. He will
eventually learn that even though he
can do some things at his other
grandparents’ home, you are going to
stick to your rules and if he doesn’t
shape up he will have to do without
something he wants. Jonah is very
young. If you are consistent he will
learn how to behave appropriately.
Your only other recourse is to go to
court to try to get full custody. I’m
sure that this would be very difficult
for his other grandparents. Even
though their standards for raising a
child are different from yours, they
seem interested and committed.
Jonah needs their love as well as
yours.
Sara
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published December 14, 2009
Dear Sara,
My husband and I have custodial
custody of his grandson Noah. Noah’
s Mom is a drug addict and totally
unable to care for him. We are
trying to raise him to be respectful,
eat a good diet and go to school on a
regular basis. We love him very
much.
The other set of grandparents get
visitation rights for 4 days at a time,
two times a month. This is a
problem for us because he gets to do
whatever he wants and even though
they are supposed to take him to
preschool when he is with them,
they don’t. He comes back to us full
of sugar and hard to handle because
they make no attempt to discipline
him.
It takes several days to calm him
down. How can we deal with this?
Carrie
Dear Carrie,
Noah is lucky to have so many people
who love him. It sounds like you are
doing the best you can at this point.
You are giving Noah a stable, loving
home with plenty of structure. Even
though his visits with his other
grandparents aren’t an especially
good influence, he will be influenced
more by you and your husband
because he spends the majority of his
time with you.
You should certainly let Noah know
that when he is with you that you
expect him to follow your rules. If he
doesn’t then he should get an
appropriate consequence. If he starts
giving you back-talk or is otherwise
rude, then make sure he doesn’t get
away with it. Give him time out or
take away his T.V. time. He will
eventually learn that even though he
can do some things at his other
grandparents’ home, you are going to
stick to your rules and if he doesn’t
shape up he will have to do without
something he wants. Jonah is very
young. If you are consistent he will
learn how to behave appropriately.
Your only other recourse is to go to
court to try to get full custody. I’m
sure that this would be very difficult
for his other grandparents. Even
though their standards for raising a
child are different from yours, they
seem interested and committed.
Jonah needs their love as well as
yours.
Sara