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featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
Dear Sara answers parenting and child raising
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published November 22, 2009
Dear Sara,
My 15 year old daughter Stacey
wants to decorate her room. I have
a degree in interior design and have
worked in this area for quite a
while, so I know something about
how to put things together. I
decorated her room when we moved
to this house and it is lovely. Stacey
says that she wants to plan
everything with no advice from me.
As far as I’m concerned her taste is
terrible. She wants ridiculous color
combinations and ultra modern
furniture and we have a really
traditional home. How can we come
to an agreement on this?
Meredith
Dear Meredith,
Stacey is beginning to think for herself
and have her own style (this is
normal). Her taste is apparently the
opposite of yours and you have some
really strong opinions on how things
need to be done.
This room is Stacey’s room and she
has lived with your taste in décor for
15 years. She is now ready to try her
wings in the decorating realm.
Hopefully you can guide her and help
with color (paint chips don’t always
look like you think they will when you
get them on the wall) and style but if
she refuses then you may be wise to
back off and let her do her thing. At
15 she needs to be able to
experiment and see what her ideas
look like in real life. She may be
thrilled by what she does or not but it
will be her own creation. My parents
let me paint my room dark green
when I was about this age and I
remember it as kind of cave-like.
You may not like her results but it’s
only one room and when she goes off
to college or gets married you can
redo it to suit yourself. Try not to go
to battle with Stacey over this. She
will be out on her own before you
know it. In the meantime, just close
her door.
Sara