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Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
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Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
Dear Sara answers parenting and child raising
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published November 9, 2009
Dear Sara,
I am concerned that my 12 year old
daughter Kelly’s interest in a
popular 16 year old singer has
become obsessive. She has posters
on her walls and cuts out pictures
and makes collages of them and in
general tries to act and dress like
her idol.
I don’t think this is good because of
the way the singer acts and
dresses. I don’t want my daughter
to flaunt herself like this. How does
a parent fight this kind of adulation?
I don’t think it is healthy.
Kevin
Dear Kevin,
At 12 years of age, you still have a lot
of control over what Kelly does and
wears. It’s hard to fight what is
popular but as a parent you have to
be firm in your convictions. If this
means that Kelly doesn’t get her way
or gets disciplined for not following
your rules, so be it.
When kids start breaking away from
their parents and try to find their own
identities, they turn to their peers for
someone to identify with. There is
often a herd mentality, where they all
go crazy for the same thing. Kelly
may be somewhat obsessive in her
emulation of her idol but this may be
in the normal range for her age
group. Teen idols come and go so
there may be another person to
idolize soon, so set some boundaries
and try not to take it too seriously.
If Kelly is trying to act or look sexy
and this is not acceptable in your
family value system then be firm in
what you think is appropriate. She
needs rules and boundaries at her
age and you as the parent should
provide them for her. Be there for her.
Maybe you can try to enjoy the music
of her favorite singer with your
daughter. Try not to let things be
completely negative by focusing in on
the good things about Kelly’s idol.
Sara
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published November 9, 2009
Dear Sara,
I am concerned that my 12 year old
daughter Kelly’s interest in a
popular 16 year old singer has
become obsessive. She has posters
on her walls and cuts out pictures
and makes collages of them and in
general tries to act and dress like
her idol.
I don’t think this is good because of
the way the singer acts and
dresses. I don’t want my daughter
to flaunt herself like this. How does
a parent fight this kind of adulation?
I don’t think it is healthy.
Kevin
Dear Kevin,
At 12 years of age, you still have a lot
of control over what Kelly does and
wears. It’s hard to fight what is
popular but as a parent you have to
be firm in your convictions. If this
means that Kelly doesn’t get her way
or gets disciplined for not following
your rules, so be it.
When kids start breaking away from
their parents and try to find their own
identities, they turn to their peers for
someone to identify with. There is
often a herd mentality, where they all
go crazy for the same thing. Kelly
may be somewhat obsessive in her
emulation of her idol but this may be
in the normal range for her age
group. Teen idols come and go so
there may be another person to
idolize soon, so set some boundaries
and try not to take it too seriously.
If Kelly is trying to act or look sexy
and this is not acceptable in your
family value system then be firm in
what you think is appropriate. She
needs rules and boundaries at her
age and you as the parent should
provide them for her. Be there for her.
Maybe you can try to enjoy the music
of her favorite singer with your
daughter. Try not to let things be
completely negative by focusing in on
the good things about Kelly’s idol.
Sara