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featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
Dear Sara answers parenting and child raising
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published August 24, 2009
Dear Sara,
I have 2 kids ages 2 and 4 and I am
a stay at home Mom. I don’t want to
spank my kids, so I am trying time
out. For some reason I cannot make
it work. As soon as I leave they are
up and out of their chair or having a
temper tantrum. What is the secret
here?
Meg
Dear Meg,
You are on the right track here. Your
kids are at an age when time out
should work.
Remember, time out doesn’t start until
your child is quiet and cooperative.
One minute per year of age is the
usual minimum but if this isn’t effective
you can let them sit a few more
minutes. You need a time out chair in
a place that is quiet, without any
entertainment or distractions so that
their time out is as boring as
possible. No T.V. toys, books or
games. Don’t use the bathroom
because there is too much to get into
there. Also don’t use any place that is
dark or scary.
You will need some kind of timer. If
there isn’t one on your kitchen stove
you can probably buy one where you
shop. Don’t interact with your kids
until the timer goes off. If they call
“Mommy is it time yet?” don’t answer.
Tell your kids ahead of time that if
they don’t cooperate that they will
have to go to the time out chair but
the timer won’t start until they are
sitting quietly. If you have to stand
there with your back to them at first
until they learn that you won’t let
them up until the timer goes off, this
is O.K. Just don’t interact with them.
Kids want attention and time out is a
way of depriving them of this
attention.
Another thing you might try is to say
“If you don’t do what I say by the
time I count to 10 (or 3 or 5) you will
have to go to time out. This often
works with preschoolers and gives
them some time to cooperate. They
begin to respond to counting and you
don’t have to use time out as much.
The main thing about time out or any
consequence is to be consistent. Your
kids will find out very quickly that you
don’t necessarily mean what you say
and will push you as far as they can.
If you mean what you say every
single time and don’t back down they
will respect your authority. If your
kids don’t respect you then they will
do as they please and you won’t have
any control. Your kids need the sense
of security that having you and Dad in
charge brings. Good luck.
Sara
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published August 24, 2009
Dear Sara,
I have 2 kids ages 2 and 4 and I am
a stay at home Mom. I don’t want to
spank my kids, so I am trying time
out. For some reason I cannot make
it work. As soon as I leave they are
up and out of their chair or having a
temper tantrum. What is the secret
here?
Meg
Dear Meg,
You are on the right track here. Your
kids are at an age when time out
should work.
Remember, time out doesn’t start until
your child is quiet and cooperative.
One minute per year of age is the
usual minimum but if this isn’t effective
you can let them sit a few more
minutes. You need a time out chair in
a place that is quiet, without any
entertainment or distractions so that
their time out is as boring as
possible. No T.V. toys, books or
games. Don’t use the bathroom
because there is too much to get into
there. Also don’t use any place that is
dark or scary.
You will need some kind of timer. If
there isn’t one on your kitchen stove
you can probably buy one where you
shop. Don’t interact with your kids
until the timer goes off. If they call
“Mommy is it time yet?” don’t answer.
Tell your kids ahead of time that if
they don’t cooperate that they will
have to go to the time out chair but
the timer won’t start until they are
sitting quietly. If you have to stand
there with your back to them at first
until they learn that you won’t let
them up until the timer goes off, this
is O.K. Just don’t interact with them.
Kids want attention and time out is a
way of depriving them of this
attention.
Another thing you might try is to say
“If you don’t do what I say by the
time I count to 10 (or 3 or 5) you will
have to go to time out. This often
works with preschoolers and gives
them some time to cooperate. They
begin to respond to counting and you
don’t have to use time out as much.
The main thing about time out or any
consequence is to be consistent. Your
kids will find out very quickly that you
don’t necessarily mean what you say
and will push you as far as they can.
If you mean what you say every
single time and don’t back down they
will respect your authority. If your
kids don’t respect you then they will
do as they please and you won’t have
any control. Your kids need the sense
of security that having you and Dad in
charge brings. Good luck.
Sara