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featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
Dear Sara answers parenting and child raising
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published August 17, 2009
Dear Sara,
I have been divorced 18 months
now. I have started dating and my
14 year old daughter Sidney is very
upset. When I get dressed to go out
she gets angry and calls me a bad
mother for leaving her alone. She
knows that she can go to her
grandparents’ house, so I know that
being alone is not the problem. She
mixed all my makeup together while
I was gone.
She sees her Dad every other
weekend and he babies her and
buys her things, so she thinks he’s
wonderful and I’m terrible because I
set limits and go out on dates. What
can I do to get some peace around
here?
Laurel
Dear Laurel,
With a 14 year old peace is often hard
to come by. When they are happy
they are a joy to be around. When
they are unhappy they tend to try to
make everyone else miserable.
I would guess that Sidney is very
unhappy about your divorce from her
father. Since you are dating, she may
tend to blame you for the breakup,
even if this is not the case. She may
also need some more time to adjust
to the new situation. Even if there
were problems in your marriage, she
probably felt more secured with two
parents in her home.
Some kids also fantasize about their
parents getting together again and
this would be more difficult to imagine
if one parent had another
relationship. So you can see why
Sidney might try to sabotage your
new social life.
18 months isn’t really a very long time
for Sidney to adjust to her new
situation. It would probably be best
to keep your relationship out of her
sight for a while. Try to arrange your
dates on the weekends when she is
with her father and don’t bring
anyone home to meet her unless you
are certain your relationship is
serious. Give Sidney some more time
to adjust.
You say that you are willing to set
limits on Sidney. I hope that there
was a suitable punishment for mixing
your makeup together. Otherwise try
to be gentle and patient and loving
with Sidney so that she can get
through this difficult adjustment.
Eventually she will go off with her own
friends and be more independent and
not need you quite so much. Good
luck.
Sara
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published August 17, 2009
Dear Sara,
I have been divorced 18 months
now. I have started dating and my
14 year old daughter Sidney is very
upset. When I get dressed to go out
she gets angry and calls me a bad
mother for leaving her alone. She
knows that she can go to her
grandparents’ house, so I know that
being alone is not the problem. She
mixed all my makeup together while
I was gone.
She sees her Dad every other
weekend and he babies her and
buys her things, so she thinks he’s
wonderful and I’m terrible because I
set limits and go out on dates. What
can I do to get some peace around
here?
Laurel
Dear Laurel,
With a 14 year old peace is often hard
to come by. When they are happy
they are a joy to be around. When
they are unhappy they tend to try to
make everyone else miserable.
I would guess that Sidney is very
unhappy about your divorce from her
father. Since you are dating, she may
tend to blame you for the breakup,
even if this is not the case. She may
also need some more time to adjust
to the new situation. Even if there
were problems in your marriage, she
probably felt more secured with two
parents in her home.
Some kids also fantasize about their
parents getting together again and
this would be more difficult to imagine
if one parent had another
relationship. So you can see why
Sidney might try to sabotage your
new social life.
18 months isn’t really a very long time
for Sidney to adjust to her new
situation. It would probably be best
to keep your relationship out of her
sight for a while. Try to arrange your
dates on the weekends when she is
with her father and don’t bring
anyone home to meet her unless you
are certain your relationship is
serious. Give Sidney some more time
to adjust.
You say that you are willing to set
limits on Sidney. I hope that there
was a suitable punishment for mixing
your makeup together. Otherwise try
to be gentle and patient and loving
with Sidney so that she can get
through this difficult adjustment.
Eventually she will go off with her own
friends and be more independent and
not need you quite so much. Good
luck.
Sara