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featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
Dear Sara answers parenting and child raising
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published July 10, 2009
Dear Sara,
I am recently divorced and my 14
year old son is not taking it very
well. He seems moody and
depressed and I think he has started
smoking pot. My ex-husband
cheated on me and I am very angry
at him and his new wife. There is a
lot of hostility and I am sure that
this is part of the problem. What
can I do to help my son when I am
so overwhelmed myself?
Jill
Dear Jill,
You need some time to get past all of
your hurt and angry feelings and it’s
not unusual for a child to be
negatively affected when his parents
split up.
You are the grown-up here and will
have to do what’s necessary to create
an atmosphere where your son can
be comfortable with both parents.
The first thing you need to do is keep
your mouth shut when it comes to
your ex. Don’t bad mouth him or his
new wife to your son. Even if you are
angry it’s really important that you
don’t create a barrier between father
and son. Your son still needs his
Dad. Don’t let your anger take that
away from him.
You will also have to allow your ex to
be comfortable coming to your home
to pick up your son. I am sure that
this will not be easy for you, but can
you let your son’s future go down the
drain so that you can punish his Dad?
You still need a place to vent your
anger. This is where counseling
comes in. You can vent all you want
to your therapist but it is poison to
your son. You can also try writing
your feelings in a journal to see if this
is something that will help you. If
your son appears depressed after you
have made an effort to keep your
anger away from him, he may need
some counseling as well.
Your anger and hostility are normal
and won’t go away right away, so
really try hard to keep your son out of
it.
Sara
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published July 10, 2009
Dear Sara,
I am recently divorced and my 14
year old son is not taking it very
well. He seems moody and
depressed and I think he has started
smoking pot. My ex-husband
cheated on me and I am very angry
at him and his new wife. There is a
lot of hostility and I am sure that
this is part of the problem. What
can I do to help my son when I am
so overwhelmed myself?
Jill
Dear Jill,
You need some time to get past all of
your hurt and angry feelings and it’s
not unusual for a child to be
negatively affected when his parents
split up.
You are the grown-up here and will
have to do what’s necessary to create
an atmosphere where your son can
be comfortable with both parents.
The first thing you need to do is keep
your mouth shut when it comes to
your ex. Don’t bad mouth him or his
new wife to your son. Even if you are
angry it’s really important that you
don’t create a barrier between father
and son. Your son still needs his
Dad. Don’t let your anger take that
away from him.
You will also have to allow your ex to
be comfortable coming to your home
to pick up your son. I am sure that
this will not be easy for you, but can
you let your son’s future go down the
drain so that you can punish his Dad?
You still need a place to vent your
anger. This is where counseling
comes in. You can vent all you want
to your therapist but it is poison to
your son. You can also try writing
your feelings in a journal to see if this
is something that will help you. If
your son appears depressed after you
have made an effort to keep your
anger away from him, he may need
some counseling as well.
Your anger and hostility are normal
and won’t go away right away, so
really try hard to keep your son out of
it.
Sara