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Welcome to ParentingwithSara.com
featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
Dear Sara answers parenting and child raising
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published June 11, 2009
Dear Sara,
I think that my 15 year old daughter
Taylor is in an abusive relationship.
She has come home with bruises on
her arms a couple of times (she
denies her boyfriend did it) but
there is mostly an emotional abuse
going on. If she doesn’t cooperate
then he pulls away emotionally and
puts her in the deep freeze.
This seems to be effective with her.
He insults her and tells her that she
is stupid and doesn’t deserve him in
e-mails and text messages that I
have seen. I know that this isn’t
good for her but how do I stop it?
Roxanne
Dear Roxanne,
Taylor really needs your support right
now. Give her the opportunity to talk
things out. If she thinks you are
being critical of the boyfriend then she
won’t want to talk about him, so you
need to be careful. Just feed back to
her in a gentle way what she tells you
and try to talk about what a good
relationship looks like.
Talk about how caring people relate
to each other. She needs to know
that people who love each other are
supportive of each other and give
compliments and encouragement
rather than insults and put downs.
You could point out people she
knows who have good relationships.
Include her friends in this as she may
not see older couples as relevant.
If she decides that she doesn’t want
this kind of relationship, her boyfriend
may up the ante to try harder to
control her by being more abusive.
She will need your protection then.
You may want to set curfews and limit
cell her cell phone and computer use
or take away her cell phone
altogether if she is being harassed.
If he stalks her or threatens her, call
the police to make them aware of this
and let the boyfriend know that you
have done this. Be very aware of
what goes on in Taylor’s life until her
is out of the picture.
It’s difficult for a teen to give up a
relationship like this because she will
begin to believe the negative input
and think that she doesn’t deserve
better. Taylor may need a therapist
experienced with abusive
relationships. Ask your family doctor
or a local mental health facility for a
referral. Good luck.
Sara
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published June 11, 2009
Dear Sara,
I think that my 15 year old daughter
Taylor is in an abusive relationship.
She has come home with bruises on
her arms a couple of times (she
denies her boyfriend did it) but
there is mostly an emotional abuse
going on. If she doesn’t cooperate
then he pulls away emotionally and
puts her in the deep freeze.
This seems to be effective with her.
He insults her and tells her that she
is stupid and doesn’t deserve him in
e-mails and text messages that I
have seen. I know that this isn’t
good for her but how do I stop it?
Roxanne
Dear Roxanne,
Taylor really needs your support right
now. Give her the opportunity to talk
things out. If she thinks you are
being critical of the boyfriend then she
won’t want to talk about him, so you
need to be careful. Just feed back to
her in a gentle way what she tells you
and try to talk about what a good
relationship looks like.
Talk about how caring people relate
to each other. She needs to know
that people who love each other are
supportive of each other and give
compliments and encouragement
rather than insults and put downs.
You could point out people she
knows who have good relationships.
Include her friends in this as she may
not see older couples as relevant.
If she decides that she doesn’t want
this kind of relationship, her boyfriend
may up the ante to try harder to
control her by being more abusive.
She will need your protection then.
You may want to set curfews and limit
cell her cell phone and computer use
or take away her cell phone
altogether if she is being harassed.
If he stalks her or threatens her, call
the police to make them aware of this
and let the boyfriend know that you
have done this. Be very aware of
what goes on in Taylor’s life until her
is out of the picture.
It’s difficult for a teen to give up a
relationship like this because she will
begin to believe the negative input
and think that she doesn’t deserve
better. Taylor may need a therapist
experienced with abusive
relationships. Ask your family doctor
or a local mental health facility for a
referral. Good luck.
Sara