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Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
featuring Parenting Advice, Child
Care and Child Raising Advice. Sara
not only has children and grand
children, but also has a degree in
Psychology, a masters degree in
Family Counseling and was a family
specialist in Lousville, Ky for more
than 10 years.
Dear Sara answers parenting and child raising
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published April 22, 2010
Dear Sara,
My 2 year old daughter, Annie, has
been biting her 4 year old brother. I
have been putting her in time out for
this but so far it hasn’t helped. One
of the problems is that she won’t
stay in time out unless I’m there
holding on to her, which in my mind
gives her too much attention. Is
there some other way to discipline
her for biting?
Kitty
Dear Kitty,
Two year olds still have to learn about
someone else’s pain. Annie doesn’t
have the ability to understand that
she is hurting her brother, she just
knows that she gets a reaction and
lots of attention.
You might try a different approach.
Instead of giving Annie time out, try to
teach her to replace the biting
behavior with a kiss. Tell her “no, we
don’t bite” and then show her how to
kiss her brother on the spot where
she bit him. If she is able to do this,
then she gets a small reward such as
a small piece of candy. She may then
be able to associate her good
behavior with getting a reward. This
way she will be getting attention for
the good behavior rather than the
bad.
You are probably right that Annie is
getting way too much attention for
her negative behavior. First she gets
your attention when she is scolded
and then even if you ignore her, she
is getting attention because you have
to stay with her in time out. She may
also like having her brother react
even though he is unhappy.
Be sure to give Annie lots of attention
when she is behaving in a way that
pleases you.
Sara
questions from readers, new columns are
posted on Mondays and Thursdays, this column
was published April 22, 2010
Dear Sara,
My 2 year old daughter, Annie, has
been biting her 4 year old brother. I
have been putting her in time out for
this but so far it hasn’t helped. One
of the problems is that she won’t
stay in time out unless I’m there
holding on to her, which in my mind
gives her too much attention. Is
there some other way to discipline
her for biting?
Kitty
Dear Kitty,
Two year olds still have to learn about
someone else’s pain. Annie doesn’t
have the ability to understand that
she is hurting her brother, she just
knows that she gets a reaction and
lots of attention.
You might try a different approach.
Instead of giving Annie time out, try to
teach her to replace the biting
behavior with a kiss. Tell her “no, we
don’t bite” and then show her how to
kiss her brother on the spot where
she bit him. If she is able to do this,
then she gets a small reward such as
a small piece of candy. She may then
be able to associate her good
behavior with getting a reward. This
way she will be getting attention for
the good behavior rather than the
bad.
You are probably right that Annie is
getting way too much attention for
her negative behavior. First she gets
your attention when she is scolded
and then even if you ignore her, she
is getting attention because you have
to stay with her in time out. She may
also like having her brother react
even though he is unhappy.
Be sure to give Annie lots of attention
when she is behaving in a way that
pleases you.
Sara